Our Victim Selves
Tipping Author of “Radical Forgiveness, Making Room for the Miracle”
archetype is deeply ingrained in all of us. It pervades our mass consciousness
at all levels. Could you honestly say that you have never blamed someone else
for your lack of happiness? For eons we have been acting out “victimhood” in
every aspect of our lives, convincing ourselves that victim consciousness is
absolutely fundamental to the human condition and that fear, anger, greed and
guilt are the essential components to our survival.
The time has come to challenge that assumption and to ask ourselves two
questions. First, what sustains our view of ourselves as victim? Second, how can
we transform the self-as-victim archetype so we can have a life based not on
fear and greed but on unconditional love and support for each other?
The answer to the first question is relatively clear. The victim archetype is
both created and sustained by the Ego - that wholly false belief system that
holds that we are separated from God, and that God is angry with us and will one
day punish us. The way we think act and feel derives from that one basic idea
given to us by early organized religions.
At the level of everyday reality, the victim archetype is woven into the very
fabric of life and has been for the last 7,000 years. That’s when we began
making the transition from small tribal communities based on sharing,
cooperation and shared security, to city states and later to nation states.
These are based on Competition and separation of groups by class, wealth and
other criteria and the rotation of elites. Slavery in one form or another
(institutionalized or economic) is a feature of all nation states and there is
virtually no shared security. In other words we have created a world of
separation, insecurity, mistrust, greed and fear institutionalized into every
one of our social systems, including our religions. 9/11 is a stark
demonstration of that separation and of the victim/perpetrator archetype in
action - just as we have created it.
The second question is more challenging. Changing the social fabric of society
will not weaken the victim archetype. It is too engrained. It will just
resurface in a different form. No, to break free from such a powerful archetype,
we must replace it with something radically different - something so compelling
and spiritually liberating that it magnetizes us away from our well-worn and
comfortable addiction to being a victim. That something is Radical Forgiveness.
Radical Forgiveness obliterates the belief in separation by taking us beyond the
drama and the illusion of our lives and the “stories” we fabricate about
virtually everything. It enables us to see the spiritual big picture and to know
the truth - that there is only Love.
As we awaken to that truth we shall see the true meaning of our suffering and be
able to transform it immediately - releasing the perception of self-as-victim.
We will understand that, without exception, everything that happens to us is
divinely guided, purposeful and for our spiritual advancement.
We shall see that our experiences are exactly as we needed and chose them to be;
that nothing wrong ever took place; that no-one was ever victimized and,
consequently, that there is no-one to forgive!
Knowing that our life is guided in this way allows us to find true peace even in
the most unpleasant of situations or memories - and we are released from the
bondage of the past. Knowing that our enemies really love us (at the soul level)
and are here only to teach us, enables our hearts to open in love and
appreciation. As the love is felt and expressed, our so-called “problems” simply
dissolve and we find ourselves at all times “in the flow” of life.
True forgiveness then, is not as is widely regarded, 'letting bygones be
bygones' while holding on to the idea that something wrong happened. It is
letting go of our victim selves, seeing the perfection in everything and
awakening to the truth that we are already home in God. That’s RADICAL
Forgiveness and though it is hard to imagine that it can change the world as it
is today, the truth is that it can - one heart at a time.
The Radical Forgiveness Experience
Radical Forgiveness: Colin Tipping
If you would care to express your desire for a world of
forgiveness, and for racial reconciliation in America, visit
Radicalforgiveness.org and read the 'Spiritual Petition.' Then add your name to
the petition. Thanks!